Archive for May, 2009

Believing anyway…

A couple of weekends ago we arrived at the cabin in Big Bear in the dark. Excitedly, and with her legs somewhat crossed, after the longish drive, the dog ran straight through the cabin and scratched on the rear door to be let out into the yard. It was very dark given we had not yet turned on all the lights but I let her out and because we always worry more about coyotes than bears I follow her so we could both be dinner for the forest wild life.

As I wait on the small deck in the pitch black the most incredible scent strikes me. It had the kind of intensity as if someone had stuck a glade air freshener under my nose but it was actually more pleasant than that. I was however completely perplexed as to where this strong scent might be coming from as our yard in Big Bear is pretty barren, so I grab the small torch that we keep on the back of the door and shine the light in a swift arm sweep across the garden. To huge surprise what were barren stalks and sticks only two weeks prior were now large broad bushes in full bloom! The garden was completely and abundantly full of lilac.

A few things struck me in my awe. Firstly, I wondered if I would have been so attentive to the perfume if my eyes had first set eyes on the lilac. I could imagine walking into the cabin in daylight, looking out the window at the blooms, being pleasantly surprised and moving on. It was the very fact that I couldn’t see, which made this experience so delightful.

The second thought was that I had recently been having one of ‘those’ conversations about having faith in an entity even when you don’t have visual evidence of it. The conversation actually featured around the ocean that had mysteriously vanished with some early Laguna Beach ‘June gloom’. Just because we couldn’t see the Ocean was there any reason to believe that it wasn’t there? Obviously our rational selves could say of course it is there, and yet in the conversation we were observing how quick we are to simply choose to believe that some things in life don’t exist just because we can’t see them in that moment.

The blooms in Big Bear didn’t exist when I was last at the cabin, I wasn’t expecting them and therefore when I smelled them I still didn’t believe in what I was sensing until I shone the light and saw them. We have coined the phrase ‘you won’t believe it until you see it’..but why is that true? Even though the scent snuck up on me why was I not content just to know that the garden was full of blooms given my sense of smell, quickly followed by my intuition, were telling me so. What was so compelling and satisfying about seeing it with my own eyes? Did it make it any more real?

So this week I am being open. Open to the idea that maybe I need to be less reliant on the notion that I need to ‘see it to believe it’ and just be more respectful and trusting of each of my other senses that tells me something exists.

I promise to let you know if I sniff out any further delights!!
Candice

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The green on-line book club

For those of you wondering what to do this holiday weekend why not consider joining Ideal Bite’s Eco Book club? In June the book club will be reading The Green Collar Economy by Van Jones.

If you are new to Van Jones you have a treat in store. Check out the website of the organization that he set up prior to becoming part of the new order at the White House as Special Advisor for Green Jobs, Enterprise and Innovation, greenforall.org. And if you would like a snapshot of some of the initiatives that this organization has seeded you can watch a few of the success story videos here.

Mr. Jones was also voted TIME Magazine’s 2008 Environmental Hero (oh and did I mention he is very easy on the eye?!).

So if you want to join the club, purchase the book at Better World Books , borrow it, or better still download it to your kindle or iphone and read the foreword, intro, and first chapter as the first on-line discussion will be on June 8th. For further details follow this link Eco Book Club.

Have a fabulous weekend.
C

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Can I have a wordle?

OK, so something fun for a Monday.

Go to wordle.net and choose ‘create’ from the menu. Type in anything you wish in the text box, your favorite song, a love letter, the RSS feed of your favorite blog, your favorite food items, the birth dates of everyone in your family or even your to-do list. Now click the ‘submit’ or ‘go’ button and sit back and enjoy the cloud artwork that you have created.

You can now change fonts, layouts and colors so it suits your mood or becomes your item of inspiration for the week!

Just incase you didn’t choose us as your favorite blog for this exploration ; ) here are a couple of the clouds we generated from our last few blog posts. The clouds give greater prominence to words that repeat and apparently we enjoy dreaming and tea at RBC!

Have a wonderful week with your head in your own personal cloud!
Candice

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Life’s compartments

I have 13 compartments. 13 areas that I check in with regularly. I sometimes write them as a list and sometimes I write them as a bubble diagram floating on a page. The number of compartments sometimes fluctuates, but at the moment it is 13. Knowing this is grounding for me. I can look at them and feel in control. I can look at them and say, yep that is me, my life, my challenges, dreams and practical projects. How many compartments do you have?

I also see the connections in between, there are 13 distinct compartments but I also see the links, the dots that become naturally joined, a frisson of integration of each to another. I actually have a feeling that it could be the links that are most important, they create my story. My compartments are activities, initiatives or aspects of ‘being’ but the links in between? Well they are the cumulative energy that has me living on purpose and showing up as only I can do. How are you showing up?

I also notice that in every single one of my compartments there is at least one other person. In my lists and in my bubbles, the labels of each entity is accompanied by a person. Maybe these people have their own bubbles and lists and I appear in them too, who knows… I however am acutely aware that these people make my life vibrant, they make it challenging, they make it fun. To have a bubble without another human being in it would seem very odd to me.

I have been a proud, independent, self reliant woman for many years and let’s call it maturity for now, but somehow, I evolved. I evolved and found that self reliance isn’t all what it is cracked up to be, it is a concept that society for a certain period of time in our lives ‘sells us’. Now I am not intending to sell out independent women here, but when did any of us, male or female feel that asking for help, or for the expert opinions of others was off limits?? When did we begin to believe that we had to do everything on our own? We don’t. We simply need to know when to ask.

I couldn’t be who I am without those people in each of my bubbles. They support, challenge and share my dreams. I am resourceful, capable and in charge, and I am also choosing to be in relationship with others on my journey. Choosing to ask for help. Choosing to be in collaboration. Choosing to create with others. Choosing the strength that we know appears in numbers.

Yes, let’s just call it maturity for now…I am finally mature enough to realize that all life’s compartments are built from the choices we make. We can construct them. Complete them. Move them around and delete them, and we each get to choose our unique combination.

Try it, grab a blank sheet of paper, draw or write out all the aspects of your life. The key things that you have going on. The things that are important to you. Career, family, health, passions, world issues that interest you etc. etc.

What have you created? What do you notice? And who would you like to invite along for the ride?
C

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High Dream Low Dream

I recently coached a family that has many new things on the horizon. Together we looked into the previous chapter of their story to see what they may miss about it, and which aspects of it they would like to bring along into the new chapter they are creating. In the session they began to envision what they want the new chapter to look like and as I listened, they began to become aware of High Dreams and Low Dreams.

What do I mean by High dreams Low Dreams? High Dream – “I hope I get the great new job”. Low Dream – “what if I call her and she doesn’t call me back?” High dreams and low dreams are our best hopes and our worst fears. In relationships it is not always that simple, nor that easy to be aware of these two ‘distinct dreams’ at all times, and yet, even though we may be unconscious of these concepts, they can have a powerful impact on what we create in our life and in our relationships.

The family’s low dream was around not having as much quality time together and their high dream was doing something together as a family that was bigger than themselves, serving the world in some way. With this awareness, they can now intentionally create what they want by looking at what supports their high dream and minimize the possibility of only their low dream occurring.

You may be wondering, how does being conscious of your high dream, low dream, hopes, expectations and desires, have an impact on how you are in your relationships? Well ask yourself – “Do I operate more from the realm of my low dream or more often from my high dream, and what impact does that have?”

Awareness is wonderful and sometimes scary, and it gives us the opportunity to be more intentional in our relationships. If life is a canvas, will YOUR masterpiece be influenced by a low dream or high dream?

Thanks to my wonderful clients for giving me permission to share their story.
Penny

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Honoring Mom’s

In the US and Canada, Sunday is Mother’s Day. There is still time to find that special gift, stand at Hallmark and search for the perfect card, and decide which of your mother’s favorite restaurants to take her to.

I have to admit that Mother’s Day is one of my favorite celebrations, and not just because I’m a mum. I loved it even when I was a kid. My sister and I would carefully plan for weeks before Mother’s day what we were going to do for our mum. We would pool our allowance which we had been saving and find the perfect gift with our $10.00, plan the day so it would be carefree for her and of course this would all be a surprise. We delighted in it. Looking back on it now as a mother myself, I see her delight was watching the two of us.

So what’s in store for your Mother this Sunday? Think back to when you were a child, you might come up with something truly memorable and I hope some of your childlike delight in wanting to show your Mom how much she means to you comes shining through.

To all you amazing Mothers out there we celebrate your beauty love and commitment.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Penny

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