Archive for February, 2009

International Women’s Day

March 8 2009 is International Women’s Day. This day has been recognized as International Women’s Day since 1911. On this day, women around the world join together in celebration of the intelligence, strength, courage and beauty of women. The focus of this day is to celebrate the achievements of women around the globe without regard to their national, ethnic, linguistic, cultural, economic or political differences.

Annually on 8 March, thousands of events are held throughout the world. Many countries, cities and communities hold events that we can be a part of; diverse local activities connect women from all around the world ranging from political rallies, business conferences, government activities and networking events through to local women’s craft markets, theatric performances, fashion parades and more. The International Women’s Day website is a great resource to find out what is going on in your area www.internationalwomensday.com

The site has events listed by country and city and is a wealth of information about what is going on globally with and for women. This includes information about Global Issues, Business/Finance, Media/Art,
Work and Government.

One organization, that we have shared with you before, Women for Women International, is holding a Global Teleconference on March 5. They will be talking about what women in their programs are doing to eradicate hunger in their countries. You can join that call by going to their website www.womenforwomen.org

Each country, city or organization participating in IWD is encouraged to find a theme. This year many have chosen themes around women and men uniting to end violence against women and girls. Currently there are 461 events in 37 countries being held for 2009..

A few gender facts to end with:
– Globally women comprise 42% internet users
– Women use 20,000 words a day while men only use 7,000
– Females in developing countries on average carry 20 liters of water per day over 6 km
– Women do two-thirds of the world’s work but receive only 10% of the world’s income.
– 56% of women who voted supported Obama compared to only 49% of men who voted for Obama.
– Women control $14 trillion in assets and this should grow to $22 trillion over next 10 years
– Only 21% of all news subjects (people interviewed or whom the news is about) are female.

Think globally act locally and find your own unique way of getting involved in IWD. Personally I like the way Russia does it. IWD is a National holiday and men get up early in the morning to go buy flowers for their wives mothers and daughters.
Yea Men !!
Penny

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Acknowledgment from peers

Watching the Oscars last night was a joy. Not only was there a real feeling of collaboration in the air there was also evidence of fun and generosity.

Stars shared their space with others in a very comfortable manner, the nominated songs were melded together to create a unique piece and the staging of the whole event lent itself to the traditional boundary between audience and stage to be opened up. The set designers did a terrific job of making the whole event seem almost familial! It was reported that David Rockwell, this year’s set designer, was using the idea of a 1930’s cocktail lounge, a la Coconut Grove speakeasy and nightclub in Boston, for inspiration, where the band were brought up out of the pit and the audience were embraced within the surrounding entertainment. I have to say it worked for me, it changed the whole tone of what is often a rather stuffy affair.

For me the most special part of evening were the acknowledgements. Every year it is very hard to watch those actors and supporting actors who don’t win in their category, captured uncomfortably on camera, as their names are called for the nominations only to then ‘lose’ in the next second. This year was completely different. For each of these catagories five distinguished past winners took the stage together, which was quite a spectacle in its own right, and each of these actors gave a very personal acknowledgement to each of the nominees prior to announcing who was to receive the Oscar. It was very touching to watch during the acknowledgments, it genuinely communicated that each actor was already a winner just to be nominated. And when the Oscar recipient moved to the stage to accept their little weighty gold statue they each walked towards the open arms of the five past Oscar recipients on stage, joining this elite club of talented people. Genuine community was unfolding before us and we were able to witness something that seemed more significant and meaningful than in years past.

My inner coach also loved this because we use acknowledgements when working with our individual clients but I believe it is even more powerful when there is acknowledgment within groups. This works by asking for the group to acknowledge one person among them, telling that person all the things they appreciate about them and to tell them what they see in regard to natural talents or spirit. The job of the recipient is to say nothing, they can nod, smile and at the end say thank you but during the acknowledgement they are not to utter a word, which as you can imagine for most people is extremely hard. Receiving acknowledgement and compliments can be pretty overwhelming as sadly we are just not trained to take it, and yet this simple activity of being ‘seen’ by our family and peers can do wonders for our self esteem and growth.

Last night with a billion people watching the recipients what were the actors to do? They didn’t need instruction to not to say anything, they couldn’t, we did however see a little squirming and a lot of welling up as these talented people were ‘seen’ by their peers. It was probably the biggest act of generosity of the evening.

Who will you acknowledge this week?
Candice

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Where do you get your information?

Driving up the mountain to Big Bear last weekend offered quite an insight into how we choose which information we will use to influence our behavior. As you approach the San Bernadino National Park, there is a sign at the base of the Mountain, it reads –

CHAINS REQUIRED
4×4 Snow tires OK
Carry Snow chains

Just from reading this, what is your take on the sign’s intention? How do you think the creator of the sign wants you to behave?

At approx. 2000 ft up the mountain we begin to witness a slight frosting of trees the air beginning to cool and the first of our drivers begin to pull over into turnouts to put on their snow chains. Now when I say the first I actually mean ‘many, many’ drivers, in all sorts of shapes and sizes of cars have pulled over to put snow chains on. From the pattern of the cars you can see how that one car’s occupants felt that the sign was an instruction and others filed in behind it. There is however NO evidence of snow on the ground.

The sign repeats again a little way on and at around 3000ft the temperature is noticeably chilly and I would much rather the dog bring her head back inside of the car instead of enjoying the thrilling rush of 30 miles an hour in her ears. The road is now beginning to turn a shade of greyish white as we turn the frost, that is now beginning to settle on the rocks and road, back into dirt. And it is here that a second batch of people begin to pull over; jerking out of the road and into a turnout as if there were an emergency to put on their snow chains. Between the larger turnouts a few other travelers seem to believe that the need for snow chains is so great that they are prepared to block the road while they haul them out and we are now reduced to driving at 10 miles an hour. My mind now casts back to those folks who were putting on chains at the bottom on the mountain and how slowly they will be ka-thudding up the mountain in their snow chains, only to get to this jam some while later and still no snow.

In our car we make positive cooing noises at each other, acknowledging that it is still early in the day, our spirits are up as it is a beautiful outside, we are still snow chain free and therefore enjoying a smooth drive as we watch others around us rattling, teeth grindingly, up the mountain on the uncompromising asphalt.

We pass another sign, the writing is the same, it hasn’t changed, and neither has the road condition.

CHAINS REQUIRED
4×4 Snow tires OK
Carry Snow chains

By 4000ft the road is becoming a little slushy, even a little bumpy in parts as we drive over sections of bobbly ice, strewn around by the plow vehicle we see driving back down the mountain in the oncoming lane, and right at this point many of the drivers forget how to operate their vehicles and begin to brake hard and wiggle across the passing lane. But we are moving, some of us more smoothly that others.

Just after this is ‘THE TURNOUT’, the one that I have to admit does rather imply ‘last chance stop’, here there are a bevvy of industrious souls in high visibility gear charging ‘$40 or more’ (we are yet to work out what the ‘more’ is) to put your snow chains on for you. Now this turnout is FULL, again there are cars of all shapes and sizes but mainly SUV’s, and some families are taking advantage of what is enterprisingly understood as the ‘last chance’ offer of snow chain assistance.

Here everyone is searching in the back of their cars for their chains, grappling under their cars, poking at their wheels, untangling chains, looking very productive and serious but if any of them actually felt the weather, looked at the road, the cars driving back down the moutain or at the hill ahead they would have seen very little reason for the chains that they were so obsessed with. To illustrate this point further, many of these earnest folks were wearing T-shirts! Yet the high visibility mountain gear of the road side entrepreneurs seemed to mesmerize these drivers into believing we were in fact in extreme weather conditions.

Between this point and the next 500ft we pass a few people who feel holding up hundreds of weekend trippers so they can put on snowchains in a traffic lane is a great idea….they however are spending more time directing traffic around their vehicles than doing the job they stopped to do.

We continue to drive slowly… around us are some vehicles with chains who must have arrived on the mountain VERY early and a convoy of SUV’s that like us, are sans chains. At around 5500ft things pretty much come to a halt, and the dog pulls her head back into the car, very unamused that there is no further rush of satisfaction to be had and we slowly approach a check point; toward the the enforcer of –

CHAINS REQUIRED
4×4 Snow tires OK
Carry Snow chains

And who do you think he lets through? Yes true to word he lets through everyone in a 4×4 vehicle with snow tires and everyone CARRYING chains. And I have to believe that he gives a slight smile to the wobbly chained up vehicles he lets through on what is barely slushy road.

Beyond the check point the road is clear, mainly because the people WITH chains need to pull over to let us through, the convoy of 4×4 vehicles now gathering speed, all determined to make it up that last 2000ft to those chosen Big Bear lake destinations for a warming cup of coffee, and again my mind casts back to 4000ft, 3000ft, 2000ft, and 1000ft and all those vehicles, families and friends who are no doubt now in a major jam, puffed out, stressed out and having their insides rattled out, when all they needed to do was look around.

The information on the sign was just stating the facts of what was required for safe travel. At no point was anyone told to PUT THOSE CHAINS ON NOW! If the road had been bad there would have been plenty of further information ensuring that would occur. Instead these drivers and passengers chose to ‘interpret’ the sign without taking in information from any other source. They didn’t look to see that the possibly more experienced visitors to the mountain were not pulling over, they didn’t look at the condition of the cars traveling back from where they were headed, and they didn’t take note of their physical environment to see what actually might be needed.

All this got me wondering about where we might be taking our everyday information from. What signs are you reading and what other information might be useful to you prior to making a decision and taking action? Is there someone who has been there? Is there someone more experienced? Is there timely and relevant information on what is actually needed?

Look around you, look at all your sources of information, not just the one staring you in the face; look, listen and feel. You may find that there is a much smoother ride to be had.

Candice.

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Take Time

Today is Presidents Day in the US, and it’s Family Day here in Canada. It is also Kyoto Protocol Day. The protocol became legally binding at midnight on February 16, 2005 and says there should be a 5.2% cut in greenhouse gas emissions from the industrialized world by 2012 and though not a holiday, certainly worth recognition.

I looked to see where else in the world today might be a holiday, and for many countries you have days coming soon so hang in there..and for those of you who live in countries where today is a holiday, what nourishing things are you doing?

We all lead very busy lives. The ability to take a whole day off may seem impossible, impractical, maybe even ridiculous given our deadlines and schedules. So how about half the day or even a couple of hours just for YOU!! Close your eyes and think about that. What comes up for you? Sleep, a walk, reading your favorite book, a massage (that is how I am going to nourish myself). Playing a game with your children, taking a run on the beach with your dog, or taking a long hot bath. You know what it is; the image of it brought a smile to your face or a deep sigh.

Whether it’s today or another day, please make time, just for you. You’re worth every precious minute, and the investment will give you far more back.

Penny

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Happy Valentines Day

Valentines Day is almost here, hearts, flowers and chocolates. We buy special gifts for the people in our lives that we love. On this day we want them to know we’re thinking of them and appreciate their presence in our lives. Where Valentine’s Day is traditionally thought of as a day for couples, I’m glad it’s broader than that now. My daughter and I give each other gifts and thanks to Face Book I just sent hearts to a bunch of my friends.

Isn’t love a wonderful thing. We are completely focused on another. We are wholeheartedly in the moment. Whether it is our partner, our pets, children, or friends. When we love someone we give them our undivided attention, and it feels great !! When we feel good, it boosts our self-confidence, which leads us to have better relationships. Statistics show that people who create healthy relationships, and stay socially connected live longer as well. *

Love like anything else gets better with practice. So let’s practice, practice, practice. Let’s live longer, be happier, live more connected, joyful, love focused lives!!

I came across this love story I’d like to close with.

The marriage of Elizabeth Barrett to Robert Browning restored her health. At 39 she was an invalid spinster poet who rarely left the house. After writing to Mr Browning, a year later she walked out of her father’s house, married and went to live in Italy. She gave birth to a healthy son when she was 43. She wrote of her devotion to the man who restored her health and life: “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height of my soul.”

And if you are still looking for that special someone you might want to check out a newly published book called “The Soul Mate Secret,” by Arielle Ford.

Happy Valentines Day and Beyond !!
Penny

* (The MacArthur Study of Successful Aging)

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Grand & Capable

One must be FASCINATED by human potential, INSPIRED by individual creativity, and unwaveringly COMMITTED to holding others as GRAND and CAPABLE.

‘Grand and Capable’ was my theme for a coaching workshop I recently had the pleasure of holding. We spent a few precious hours exploring, living a fulfilling life from the inside out. Starting with what are we passionate about and what nourishes us; making the time to nurture our hearts and souls.

We also played with perspectives. Ensuring our choices reflect what truly resonates with a fulfilling life, keeping us in action towards our dreams. And we looked at owning what’s here for us in the moment, so we stay truly engaged in the process of our lives.

So many thanks to the brave souls who jumped in and played with me, for drawing pictures of your inner critics and capturing the phrase they most like to use against you, to discovering your core values by talking about your favorite movie. And thank you to the Julian Arts and Letters Program, for their commitment to their community and for the fun and the pleasure of seeing how truly Grand and Capable you all are.

Penny

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Coaching Awareness Week!

Have you been aware that it was International Coaching Awareness week this week??!!! It wouldn’t really surprise me if you didn’t but all is not lost! Coaches in Orange County are just a little bit quirky and instead of holding our awareness day this week we are holding it next Friday at the DoubleTree Hotel (Orange County Airport).

It is also just in time for Valentine’s day, relevant because one of our keynote speakers is John Gray, relationship and gender expert and author of 16 books, including the relationship classic Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. Our second keynote speaker is Jim Cathcart, who will be presenting Intelligent Motivation for a Challenging World. He will show you how to use today’s strategies & technologies to create greater equity and outcomes from your existing contacts.

The speakers will be talking during a day packed with engaging workshops and seminars which will all talk to the benefits of coaching.

Red Barn is a silver sponsor of the event and we are taking information on ‘Your Essence Story’. Think of it as a foundation package, some folks come to coaching knowing very specifically what they want to work on, others come because they just have that feeling that something is missing and want to explore that more so the ‘YES’ is a series of 6 sessions that utilizes metaphor to explore values, purpose, goals and core essence for you or your company so you become equipped with some filters for your life or business growth.

If you are curious about Coaching day come join the fun! You can register at ICF Orange County.

And if you are interested in ‘Your Essence Story’ series or coaching in general, feel free to email us at hello@redbarncoaching.com.

Have a marvelous weekend
Candice

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