Archive for November, 2008

Ordinary People Extraordinary Impact

We love to tell you about people who make nourishing others a priority in their lives.
If you would like to spend a feel good hour watching some amazing people check out
‘CNN Heroes: An All Star Tribute’.

This wonderful global thanksgiving celebration tribute was aired last night, and will be shown again Friday night at 10:00pm ET and Saturday & Sunday at 8:00pm ET

You’ll see people like Liz McCartney CNN’s Hero of the Year; through her St. Bernard Parish Project she has organized 9000 volunteers to help rebuild the homes of over 120 families in St Bernard Parish just outside of New Orleans.

If you are unable to catch it live you can read about Liz and all the other CNN Heroes at
CNN Heroes.

Thanks to all the heroes out there!!
Penny

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Giving Thanks

I picked up a card for an acupuncture service today and on the rear it said “Let’s live healthy and happy” and I found myself saying out loud to the card , ‘yep that would be lovely thank you..’

In this week of giving thanks we have the perfect opportunity to check in with our loved ones and do a pulse check… how are we all doing? I am not talking just about sniffles and sore throats here, but how is the ‘health’ of the family as a whole? Is everyone doing well? Is there someone who needs a little more support? Is everyone happy?

I know some of you are probably thinking that opening an emotional can of worms over Thanksgiving dinner is about as appealing as a poke in the eye but it doesn’t have to be that way. You can simply ask people to to bring their thoughts of thanks to the table, everyone can do this whatever their age. Just ask your guests to share what they are thankful for with others at the table, this will spark conversation and if you listen well you will become pretty insightful.

I also request that you to take some time for self-care this week too. Please remember that the holidays are about being with our friends and family and not about having to be perfect. I assure you people have a much better time when they have a role so even if you have a tough time delegating during the rest of the year please make this a family affair and give everyone a job; meals always taste better when you have been responsible for part of its creation.

I personally thank you all for your continued feedback and generosity, have a wonderful holiday.
Much love
Candice

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Armchair education

Last night a friend told me that another friend of his has decided to build himself a straw bale house. He has no idea how to do it and is going to educate himself on the job. I found this very inspirational and also caught myself lamenting again that I really need to get on with plans for the house rebuild and this morning I began to look into viable resources to really kick start what seems quite an ominous project (I will spare you the details but it involves a historic preservation order ya da ya da…) and I began to wonder if I really should have just taken the time to attend ‘Green Build’; wondering if the inspiration, determination and big picture benefits that I am looking for are simply sat at this Boston conference held by the United States Green Building Council.
Just as I am about to pontificate this I notice that I have an email in my inbox telling me that all the Green Build keynotes are being streamed live on Greenbuild365! Greenbuild365 is the USGBC’s interactive green building learning portal aka education without having to leave my very comfortable armchair!

I think this is a great opportunity for anyone interested in the green building movement so just DVR tonight’s episodes of Ugly Betty and Grey’s Anatomy and instead sit down and take in a couple of hours of ‘Green’ Education by visiting Green Build.

If you want to know more about the work of the USGBC itself you can also view ‘USBGC at 15’. Eight documentaries celebrating 15yrs of the Green Building Council that share the perspectives of a few of the pivotal leaders of the green building movement, these can be found on You Tube at USGBC at 15.

So by not going to Boston I may have missed out on a really fresh seafood dinner, a visit with good friends and the chance to run into Patriot QB Matt Cassel but ultimately I’m very happy that due to the wonder of technology I don’t have to miss out on any Green Build inspiration.

I hope you find it interesting too.
Candice

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Charter for Compassion

A few weeks back Candice wrote a post on ‘Wishes Big Enough to Change the World’. She shared that TED prize winners are granted one wish to change the world, and how their wishes have led to collaborative initiatives with far-reaching impact.

While we wait to hear the wishes of the 2009 prize winners here is an initiative that we can all take part in today. It’s called the Charter for Compassion; 2008 prize winner Karen Armstrong’s wish where people of all nations, all faiths, all backgrounds, are invited to contribute. By recognizing that the Golden Rule is fundamental to all world religions, the Charter for Compassion can inspire people to think differently about religion. This Charter is being created through a collaborative project by people from all over the world and the declaration of its impact will begin in December.

People can use the project website to offer language they’d like to see included or inspire others by sharing your own story of compassion. “The Charter for Compassion is a collaborative effort to build a peaceful and harmonious global community. Bringing together the voices of people from all religions, the Charter seeks to remind the world that while all faiths are not the same, they all share the core principle of compassion and the Golden Rule. The Charter will change the tenor of the conversation around religion. It will be a clarion call to the world.

Using innovative group decision-making software, people of all faiths, from all across the globe, will contribute their words and stories on a website designed specifically for the Charter. A Council of Sages, made up of religious thinkers and leaders, will craft the world’s words into the final version of the Charter.

The document will not only speak to the core ideas of compassion but will also address the actions all segments of society can take to bring these ideas into the world more fully. The Charter for Compassion will then be signed by religious leaders of all faiths at a large launch event, followed by a series of other events to publicize and promote the Charter around the world.

The Charter for Compassion will not be a new organization. There are hundreds of existing organizations around the world already working tirelessly in the name of compassion and interfaith dialogue. The goal is to highlight these groups in effort to raise the profile of their work. The Charter will show that the voice of negativity and violence so often associated with religion is the minority and that the voice of compassion is the majority. Through the participation of the grassroots, people around the world will expect more out of religious leaders and one another. In doing so, the Charter will shift conceptions of religion for all people.” Source charterforcompassion.org

There are just a few days left to contribute to the charter and then a lifetime to live it. The Golden Rule can be interpreted as “Treat others only in ways that you’re willing to be treated in the same exact situation” and if you are curious to know how that appears across different religions visit Golden Rule.

To contribute to the charter or to find out more about it visit Charter for Compassion.com.

Group Hug
Penny

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The nourishment in being prepared

I received a recorded message today from my Insurance Broker reminding me that my home insurance doesn’t include flooding. The message then asked if I would like to purchase some additional insurance and to call the office if I did and to be honest I just don’t know.

Today was ‘The Great Southern California Shake Out’ a mass earthquake drill that occurred at 10am this morning. The Shake Out is one of the Nation’s largest ever emergency response and public preparedness exercise; a drill based on a potential magnitude 7.8 earthquake on the southern San Andreas Fault— approximately 5,000 times larger than the magnitude 5.4 earthquake that shook southern California on July 29. Organizers made it clear that it is not a matter of if an earthquake of this size will happen—but when. And it is possible that it will happen in our lifetime.

There is a bit of a joke in our household that while we have a preparedness kit in the car and we could survive for a few days with our supplies the car actually rarely has a full tank of gas so we wouldn’t actually get very far! But in reality is that a joke we can afford?

I find it fascinating that we put so much effort into worrying about our day to day activities but how many of us really prepare for the more important challenges that might face us? Is it clear on your cell phone who should be contacted in an emergency? Is there information in your car telling emergency services that there are animals at home or children at daycare that need to be attended to? We spend a lot of time sweating the small things and yet often don’t think about the simple things that could really make a difference in an emergency. Does your family have a designated meeting place in case of a natural disaster? Are you aware of the people in your neighborhood who would be challenged to evacuate?

As I await further news on the Montecito fires, I wonder why drills aren’t actually compulsory I am sure we would all learn a lot and be more compelled to spend the time it would take to put these important precautions in place; maybe this weekend would be a great time to have that family conversation and place those notes and contact numbers in your car and wallet.

As for the flood insurance… I think I will just start by ensuring there is always gas in my tank.
Candice

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Peace

As I walk down the street, stand in line at a check out, or sit down to eat at a restaurant, I see poppies. Not in vases or pots and not in the ground in Canada in November, instead I see them blooming, on shirts, jackets, hats, purses, and I think in the hearts of those who wear them.

Poppies are the symbol of remembrance, and whenever I see them I think of the poem I learned as a child.

“In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.
We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe;
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.”
John McCrae

And it seems that children continue to be taught it; type ‘Flanders Fields’ into ‘You Tube’ and you will find many youth choir performances of this poem today.

Seeing poppies worn on people makes it more personal for me; as the elderly lady walks by perhaps it’s the son who never came home or for the young women it’s her sweetheart, for the child, an older sibling. Whatever our thoughts, feelings, or beliefs about war I think most of us would agree on our planet’s need for peace.

As we remember those who have already made sacrifices let’s ask ourselves, how can we, one person at a time be change agents for peace? Perhaps it’s as simple as deciding that this November 11 we are going to foster peace in every encounter we have that day; talk to a stranger, get to know one of our neighbor, volunteer at a Veterans Hospital, check out organizations that foster peace and choose one to support. Perhaps it could be having that difficult conversation we’ve been putting off, maybe it’s letting go of having to be right. People don’t care how much we know until they know how much we care, cliché perhaps but it’s true; people tend to only remember how we make them feel.

We just experienced a shift toward hope and anything is possible so this November 11 and beyond let’s choose to make Peace a part of who we are.

“Be the change you wish to see in the world…” – Gandhi

Peace
Penny

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Yes we can

We communicate in many channels. This is an important concept to grasp when we are trying to convey our message and when we are listening to others. It is paramount in coaching because if a client tells me that she is ‘seeing’ something and I ask her what that feels like, it may draw a sudden blank. It would be more appropriate for me to stay in her visual channel and ask ‘what does that look like?”. Try it with your partners, your friends and your children listen to what channel they are using and meet them there and when that channel has nothing more to offer then switch and see if there is more information in an alternate channel, it is simple and incredibly effective.

Now some folks will claim that they can’t visualize, they can’t feel, they don’t have any intelligence in the way they are moving and they aren’t hearing anything; at this point I introduce the World Channel or Time Spirits. These are channels where information comes in from the outside world and they will be events that have had impact on us. For instance I might ask “How does what happened during 9/11 inform you?” before you know it the person is telling me about the sounds, sights, smells all attributed to the event and how they feel about it to the point where it is palpable. It is a rich source of learning for that person and releases a lot of self limiting beliefs that they had about their own capacity to feel, visualize or sense; they CAN in fact do all of it.

I felt that it was relevant to write about this today as we witness a Time Spirit in creation this week. I of course talk of Obama’s Victory and whether you be a Republican or Democrat, a US Citizen or otherwise there is probably something within this event and quite possibly in the victory speech itself that will impact who you are choosing to be today and who you are becoming.

I want to give you some time to consciously explore this channel so please find the speech transcript below. Use this World Channel and new Time Spirit to see what wisdom you find in regard to your own life and goals.

What do you notice you can do this week?
Candice

President-elect Barack Obama’s victory speech:

“Hello, Chicago.

“If there is anyone out there who still doubts that America is a place where all things are possible, who still wonders if the dream of our founders is alive in our time, who still questions the power of our democracy, tonight is your answer.

“It’s the answer told by lines that stretched around schools and churches in numbers this nation has never seen, by people who waited three hours and four hours, many for the first time in their lives, because they believed that this time must be different, that their voices could be that difference.

“It’s the answer spoken by young and old, rich and poor, Democrat and Republican, black, white, Hispanic, Asian, Native American, gay, straight, disabled and not disabled, Americans who sent a message to the world that we have never been just a collection of individuals or a collection of red states and blue states.

“We are, and always will be, the United States of America.

“It’s the answer that led those who’ve been told for so long by so many to be cynical and fearful and doubtful about what we can achieve to put their hands on the arc of history and bend it once more toward the hope of a better day.

“It’s been a long time coming, but tonight, because of what we did on this date in this election at this defining moment, change has come to America.

“A little bit earlier this evening, I received an extraordinarily gracious call from Senator McCain.

“Senator McCain fought long and hard in this campaign. And he’s fought even longer and harder for the country that he loves. He has endured sacrifices for America that most of us cannot begin to imagine. We are better off for the service rendered by this brave and selfless leader.

“I congratulate him; I congratulate Governor (Sarah) Palin for all that they’ve achieved. And I look forward to working with them to renew this nation’s promise in the months ahead.

“I want to thank my partner in this journey, a man who campaigned from his heart, and spoke for the men and women he grew up with on the streets of Scranton and rode with on the train home to Delaware, the vice president-elect of the United States, Joe Biden.

“And I would not be standing here tonight without the unyielding support of my best friend for the last 16 years, the rock of our family, the love of my life, the nation’s next first lady Michelle Obama.

“Sasha and Malia I love you both more than you can imagine. And you have earned the new puppy that’s coming with us to the new White House.

“And while she’s no longer with us, I know my grandmother’s watching, along with the family that made me who I am. I miss them tonight. I know that my debt to them is beyond measure.

“To my sister Maya, my sister Alma, all my other brothers and sisters, thank you so much for all the support that you’ve given me. I am grateful to them.

“And to my campaign manager, David Plouffe, the unsung hero of this campaign, who built the best – the best political campaign, I think, in the history of the United States of America.

“To my chief strategist David Axelrod who’s been a partner with me every step of the way. To the best campaign team ever assembled in the history of politics, you made this happen and I am forever grateful for what you’ve sacrificed to get it done.

“But above all, I will never forget who this victory truly belongs to. It belongs to you. It belongs to you.

“I was never the likeliest candidate for this office.

“We didn’t start with much money or many endorsements.

“Our campaign was not hatched in the halls of Washington. It began in the backyards of Des Moines and the living rooms of Concord and the front porches of Charleston.

“It was built by working men and women who dug into what little savings they had to give 5 and 10 and 20 to the cause.

“It grew strength from the young people who rejected the myth of their generation’s apathy, who left their homes and their families for jobs that offered little pay and less sleep.

“It drew strength from the not-so-young people who braved the bitter cold and scorching heat to knock on doors of perfect strangers, and from the millions of Americans who volunteered and organised and proved that more than two centuries later a government of the people, by the people, and for the people has not perished from the Earth.

“This is your victory.

“And I know you didn’t do this just to win an election. And I know you didn’t do it for me.

“You did it because you understand the enormity of the task that lies ahead. For even as we celebrate tonight, we know the challenges that tomorrow will bring are the greatest of our lifetime – two wars, a planet in peril, the worst financial crisis in a century.

“Even as we stand here tonight, we know there are brave Americans waking up in the deserts of Iraq and the mountains of Afghanistan to risk their lives for us.

“There are mothers and fathers who will lie awake after the children fall asleep and wonder how they’ll make the mortgage or pay their doctors’ bills or save enough for their child’s college education.

“There’s new energy to harness, new jobs to be created, new schools to build, and threats to meet, alliances to repair.

“The road ahead will be long. Our climb will be steep. We may not get there in one year or even in one term. But, America, I have never been more hopeful than I am tonight that we will get there.

“I promise you, we as a people will get there.

“There will be setbacks and false starts. There are many who won’t agree with every decision or policy I make as president. And we know the government can’t solve every problem.

“But I will always be honest with you about the challenges we face. I will listen to you, especially when we disagree. And, above all, I will ask you to join in the work of remaking this nation, the only way it’s been done in America for 221 years – block by block, brick by brick, calloused hand by calloused hand.

“What began 21 months ago in the depths of winter cannot end on this autumn night.

“This victory alone is not the change we seek. It is only the chance for us to make that change. And that cannot happen if we go back to the way things were.

“It can’t happen without you, without a new spirit of service, a new spirit of sacrifice.

“So let us summon a new spirit of patriotism, of responsibility, where each of us resolves to pitch in and work harder and look after not only ourselves but each other.

“Let us remember that, if this financial crisis taught us anything, it’s that we cannot have a thriving Wall Street while Main Street suffers.

“In this country, we rise or fall as one nation, as one people. Let’s resist the temptation to fall back on the same partisanship and pettiness and immaturity that has poisoned our politics for so long.

“Let’s remember that it was a man from this state who first carried the banner of the Republican Party to the White House, a party founded on the values of self-reliance and individual liberty and national unity.

“Those are values that we all share. And while the Democratic Party has won a great victory tonight, we do so with a measure of humility and determination to heal the divides that have held back our progress.

“As Lincoln said to a nation far more divided than ours, we are not enemies but friends. Though passion may have strained, it must not break our bonds of affection.

“And to those Americans whose support I have yet to earn, I may not have won your vote tonight, but I hear your voices. I need your help. And I will be your president, too.

“And to all those watching tonight from beyond our shores, from parliaments and palaces, to those who are huddled around radios in the forgotten corners of the world, our stories are singular, but our destiny is shared, and a new dawn of American leadership is at hand.

“To those – to those who would tear the world down: We will defeat you. To those who seek peace and security: We support you. And to all those who have wondered if America’s beacon still burns as bright: Tonight we proved once more that the true strength of our nation comes not from the might of our arms or the scale of our wealth, but from the enduring power of our ideals: democracy, liberty, opportunity and unyielding hope.

“That’s the true genius of America: that America can change. Our union can be perfected. What we’ve already achieved gives us hope for what we can and must achieve tomorrow.

“This election had many firsts and many stories that will be told for generations. But one that’s on my mind tonight’s about a woman who cast her ballot in Atlanta. She’s a lot like the millions of others who stood in line to make their voice heard in this election except for one thing: Ann Nixon Cooper is 106 years old.

“She was born just a generation past slavery; a time when there were no cars on the road or planes in the sky; when someone like her couldn’t vote for two reasons – because she was a woman and because of the colour of her skin.

“And tonight, I think about all that she’s seen throughout her century in America – the heartache and the hope; the struggle and the progress; the times we were told that we can’t, and the people who pressed on with that American creed: Yes we can.

“At a time when women’s voices were silenced and their hopes dismissed, she lived to see them stand up and speak out and reach for the ballot. Yes we can.

“When there was despair in the dust bowl and depression across the land, she saw a nation conquer fear itself with a New Deal, new jobs, a new sense of common purpose. Yes we can.

“When the bombs fell on our harbour and tyranny threatened the world, she was there to witness a generation rise to greatness and a democracy was saved. Yes we can.

“She was there for the buses in Montgomery, the hoses in Birmingham, a bridge in Selma, and a preacher from Atlanta who told a people that ‘We Shall Overcome’. Yes we can.

“A man touched down on the moon, a wall came down in Berlin, a world was connected by our own science and imagination.

“And this year, in this election, she touched her finger to a screen, and cast her vote, because after 106 years in America, through the best of times and the darkest of hours, she knows how America can change.

“Yes we can.

“America, we have come so far. We have seen so much. But there is so much more to do. So tonight, let us ask ourselves – if our children should live to see the next century; if my daughters should be so lucky to live as long as Ann Nixon Cooper, what change will they see? What progress will we have made?

“This is our chance to answer that call. This is our moment.

“This is our time, to put our people back to work and open doors of opportunity for our kids; to restore prosperity and promote the cause of peace; to reclaim the American dream and reaffirm that fundamental truth, that, out of many, we are one; that while we breathe, we hope. And where we are met with cynicism and doubts and those who tell us that we can’t, we will respond with that timeless creed that sums up the spirit of a people: Yes, we can.

“Thank you. God bless you. And may God bless the United States of America.”

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